Happy New Year! Did you make your NY resolutions?
In the center of end-of-the-year-madness one of the things most of us do is decide that “This will be my year!”; year when I start going to the gym, when I stop drinking so much, start reading more, and so on. Usually, our enthusiasm last for a week, and we once again shift off to our normal everyday habits, go back to eating carbs and ignoring protein, while binge-watching Netflix. Continue reading to find out why is that normal, why you shouldn’t make New Year resolutions, what to do instead, and much more.
New Year’s Resolutions simply don’t work
We all make then, they are always the same, and we all forget them. Why is it like that? Every ending is challenging, so we ask ourselves what is next!? We hurry up, make decisions and later ignore them. However, year ending is different because on the First of January everything will be the same (minus potential hangover), but you now have these “resolutions” because it’s socially acceptable to have them, and you probably made them under pressure. So, naturally you fail to carry them out. To avoid all of this make sure to follow the steps that are written below, and write your goals before or after NY madness.
Prioritize, write lists
When you realize it’s time to change your life and start fresh, only person you should ask for help is yourself. Set up the mood (go offline, maybe play some music, whatever works for you) and really ask yourself what you care about. Look back on your week and write down when you felt happy, sad, or just plain bored. For me, the goal is to not waste time, so every action should be productive, and time should be well spent.
Method that works best for me is making lists, so after looking back I looked in the future are make lists: what I want (material possessions, traveling locations, etc.), people I love (when you write this done you will know it better and focus your time on the right persons), and last, but not least, goals (3 months, one year, 3 years).
Self-growth, personal and professional goals
It is important to try to maintain balance between all three groups while making goals, and to have at least one goal from every group. In self-growth write goals such as learning new languages and skills, in personal working on your relationship/friends problems, and in professional goals focus on your career and/or formal education.
Your goals should be SMART
SMART method is often used in business world when making plans, and you should also use it. Your goals should be:
Specific – You need to know what exactly you want to achieve. You can ask yourself 5 W’s (popular method in journalism). For example if your goal is to start going to the gym questions would be: Who will I go with? What I want to achieve in the gym? Where will I go? When do I have time to do it? Why do I want this? When you have answers to these questions your goal is specific and next steps will be easier.
Measurable – If you made one year goals, you should make a measurable plan of implementation and track it down with KPI’s (Key Performance Indicators). For example if your goal is to read 40 books in one year you should read 10 until the end of March.
Attainable – Let’s face it, you are probably not going to* fly a NASA rocket ship in one year. *It is important to be positive about your goals, but you have to think whether the goal is really acceptable to you, you have to take time, money, etc. in consideration.
Relevant – Is this goal relevant to you and you priorities? This is why setting your priorities is even more important than your goals.
Timely – If you have a goal to run a 10K you have to start with preparation on time, so make sure to make starting deadlines for every goal, and track implementation with KPI’s. If you have a yearlong goals, make plans for every month and what you need to achieve.
Make habits to achieve goals
Achieving goals is a difficult sport, and only the best of us manage to get the golden prize. However, when you don’t win a prize you shouldn’t stop, but try harder. Breaking old habits and making new, better ones, is best way to get to your goals. There are some studies that say that if you do something every day for 40 days it becomes a habit. So, the only thing you have to do is try hard for 40-ish days. Good luck!